Kathryn A. (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
kerravonsen) wrote2013-07-21 10:20 am
kerravonsen) wrote2013-07-21 10:20 am
Resolution
I pledge to overcome my social conditioning to be polite to creepy guys.
I pledge to be blunt but not angry.
I pledge to project body language of confidence and calm (even if I am feeling neither confident nor calm).
Instead of cringing and wishing he would go away, I will say "I am not talking to you. Go away."(*)
If he says "I was just trying to be friendly," I will say "You failed."
If he says "There's no need to be rude," I will say "Being polite wasn't working."
If he calls me names, I will say "That's why I don't want to talk to you."
(Prompted by this and re-reading this)
(*) There was a guy who was an ex-co-worker who was also a regular con-goer; I didn't like him, but I didn't want to be rude, so I would converse when he talked to me. I would cringe when I saw him at cons, and go in the opposite direction. Finally I got sick of trying to avoid him, so I said the aforementioned "I am not talking to you". Surprisingly, it worked.
I pledge to be blunt but not angry.
I pledge to project body language of confidence and calm (even if I am feeling neither confident nor calm).
Instead of cringing and wishing he would go away, I will say "I am not talking to you. Go away."(*)
If he says "I was just trying to be friendly," I will say "You failed."
If he says "There's no need to be rude," I will say "Being polite wasn't working."
If he calls me names, I will say "That's why I don't want to talk to you."
(Prompted by this and re-reading this)
(*) There was a guy who was an ex-co-worker who was also a regular con-goer; I didn't like him, but I didn't want to be rude, so I would converse when he talked to me. I would cringe when I saw him at cons, and go in the opposite direction. Finally I got sick of trying to avoid him, so I said the aforementioned "I am not talking to you". Surprisingly, it worked.
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