this was a great post. you are right, it's good to have replies on hand. i had seen the first thing you linked to. had not seen the other, and also don't relate to assessing men in that way, have not been much bothered with unwanted attention (except maybe construction workers in my youth, lol). but it's a valid point. i wonder if some of it is an age thing - when i was younger, there wasn't so much talk about those rape statistics and date rape was not yet a concept with a name, though it undoubtedly was a thing that happened.