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[personal profile] kerravonsen
Saw an acquaintance in the lift this morning. I was admiring the colour of her top, a vivid blue.
She said it was a very Eighties colour, and started describing a dress she'd had in the eighties which was a similar colour, Electric Blue and black, with padded shoulders.

"Oh yes," I said, "those Eighties padded shoulders!"

"You're too young to remember that," she said before I could continue.

"Why, how old do you think I am?" I asked, puzzled.

"Thirties, forties," she said.

"Fifty," I said.

"No way!" she said.

"Fifty," I repeated.

"You're not!" she said.

"Fifty," I repeated again.

"You have a young face," she said. "But I'm still older than you!"

Thinking about this later -- because of course I always have to analyse things -- I can think of a few reasons I look younger than I am.
1. I checked in the mirror, and my face doesn't actually have any wrinkles, which surprised me. I thought I had a few crows-feet around my eyes, but apparently I don't (anymore?).
2. Fat face = baby face?
3. I don't wear any makeup. None whatsoever. This confuses people, because they expect older women to wear a lot of makeup (in order to hide how old they are). So I don't fit the profile of what an older woman usually looks like.
4. Long hair in two plaits, because it's easier than one plait. This is also not a customary look for an older woman.

Thing is, I'm not trying pretend that I'm younger than I am, I just look it.

I am pleased to be fifty, not because I surprise people that I am fifty, but because I surprise myself. I have made it this far, made it to fifty. This is a good thing.

Date: 2016-02-16 08:16 pm (UTC)
lizbee: (Default)
From: [personal profile] lizbee
Okay, I had you pegged at about forty, so yes, you are very youthful in appearance!

Date: 2016-02-17 08:46 pm (UTC)
sallymn: from a poster for Alice by Jan Svankmajer (Default)
From: [personal profile] sallymn
People think I'm younger than I am, but now I'm letting the grey show in my hair (not a lot, but it's there) I think that may fade...

Date: 2016-02-18 01:31 am (UTC)
kalypso: (Marisu)
From: [personal profile] kalypso
I'm glad you made it!

I don't think I've had anyone try to guess my age recently, though people used to underestimate it significantly (apart from one blind man, so evidently the voice was a giveaway!) I think there are clues now, as my hair is beginning to grey, and the backs of my hands are creasing and spotting. I don't wear make-up, but my skin is very bad at present, which I believe to be peri-menopausal acne. The menopause proper, however, awaits me... I am wondering whether I will look noticeably older after that.

My sister's hair is mostly white, and she says people get up for her on the bus now.

Date: 2016-02-18 03:30 am (UTC)
kalypso: (Hedda)
From: [personal profile] kalypso
Oh, I've witnessed the hot flushes in friends, who suddenly start tearing off layers of clothes for no obvious reason until I remember that's what it is. I expect I'll notice when they start.

Date: 2016-02-18 11:05 am (UTC)
watervole: (Default)
From: [personal profile] watervole
Smile. I suspect I may come across as younger too, especially when I'm dancing.

Date: 2016-02-16 03:43 pm (UTC)
dreamflower: gandalf at bag end (Default)
From: [personal profile] dreamflower
I get that all the time. I'm almost 64, and when I tell my age, I get that "No, you can't be!" reaction. What can I say, I got great genes from my mother's side. She was over 90 when she passed, and looked like she was in her mid-60s at most.

I do notice that I'm starting to get a few wrinkles, mainly in my hands, and I have finally got a few grey hairs.

Thing is, I can't take any credit for it. I don't do anything particular to look any younger, so I don't find it a big deal.

Oddly, in my dreams (real night-time dreams) I look about the same age I was when I graduated college. I just wish I still felt that way, when I get out of breath, or my knees give me trouble.

Date: 2016-02-16 04:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I go against convention too with no make up and longish hair.

Date: 2016-02-16 06:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
This is always a good surprise, to hear this. YAY!:-)

Date: 2016-02-17 02:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
It's your creative spirit shining through. ;) What a lovely thing to hear, though, just in terms, as you say, of the fact that you're 50 and here you are and she could say that to you.

Date: 2016-02-18 04:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I get the same thing, but it's the fat face--no make up--freckles combination. I look like a kewpie doll. :P


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